Being committed in a relationship and make it keep going requires a lot of energy and understanding. You may be reading this article because you feel like your partner doesn’t love you more than you love them. It can be due to the fact that your love languages doesn’t match. A love language is the way how a person express their feelings for you. You may write your partner love letters and expect them to do the same because that’s your love language. But they are expressing their love by with you their time or going out with you. This can make you feel like you are not getting back in return what you are giving. However, it can be due to the reason that your partner’s love language is spending time with you or going out with you.
But the problem begins when only you put effort in your relationship and your partner doesn’t.
Besides this, there are some unexpected signs that you may see in your relationship which are given on the next page
You do not feel like getting back enough in return
When you feel like it’s always you who initiate things and make compromises, it’s time to face the fact that your partner doesn’t love you as much as you do. Relationship is a 50/50 effort. Sometimes when one person is feeling low, it can be 80/20. But that should not be the case always. Both people should make effort to make a relationship work.
You are leaving your friends for them
You are not going out or meeting your friends because you think that your partner may need you. You may want to spend most of your time with your partner. When they are doing the same, it means you both are head over heels in love with each other. However, if its only you who are doing this, then you should stop leaving your life behind for someone who cannot do the same for you.
Fear of “they’ll leave you for someone better”
When your partner loves you, they make you feel like you deserve the world. They are not willing to let you go for anyone. But if you are in a relationship where you have developed a constant fear that your partner might leave you. They make you feel insecure about yourself. Then you should not harm your mental health for this and leave.
They don’t know about you as much as you do
You can tell what your partner’s favorite food, color, game, sport, shirt and watch. But when it comes to them, they can answer only a few. When someone is in love with you, they are interested in you and knowing your favorite items. They want to know all about you. But if you feel like they don’t, you should rethink about your relationship.
When talking about future, you are not there
If you feel like your partner is not in love with you as much as you, then ask them about their future. If your partner answers that their future includes you then you are lucky to have found love. But if you are not mentioned in their future plan anywhere, you should focus on making your own future and move on. Because when a person loves you, they can never stop thinking about making their future without you.
Your dreams are doomed
Relationship is all about supporting and motivating each other. A perfect relationship is where you both focus on your dreams and keep each other motivated about their dreams. You both are each other’s biggest support. But it is not right when only you are there to support them. All your partner is talking about their goals and dreams and do not care to ask and support yours.
Only you want to solve problems
Every relationship have problems. It is not an issue if many problems arise when you and your partner are both willing to resolve your problems. The problem occurs when its only you who want to solve problems and your partner is not willing to do the same. When your partner doesn’t talk about where you both stand, it’s a clear red flag that your partner do not want this relationship forever.
Its only you who care about their happiness before yours
When you are in love, you prioritize your partner’s happiness over yours. You care about making them happy. This is an act of love. The issue begins when you are the only one prioritizing their happiness. This can make you pretty exhausting and tired.
When you need them, they are not there for you
Love is all about being there for your partner. It is about being the comfort place, listener and a support for your partner when they are feeling low. But if you feel like your partner is not there when you need them, you should reconsider your relationship. They’ll tell you that it’s not a big deal or worst, put the blame on you. If that’s the case, you should quickly save yourself from this toxicity.
What is important for you is not for them
Be it is your birthday, anniversary, graduation, promotion or first day at job. It all seems meaningless if your partner is not there with you. You should look out for when your partner is not making things work.
Relationship is about making things work together. It takes a lot of effort to do so. But you are willing to invest all of your energy happily when you love each other. Therefore, if you have issues, discuss them with your partner. If your partner is willing to work things out, perfect. However, if they are not, then you should get out of this relationship.